It is good to love with your heart but better to do same with your head. The fact that love has consumed your heart doesn’t mean one shouldn’t use their head. Love is a beautiful thing. However, when sowed in the wrong environment, it turns sour!
Divorces and bad marriages, like accidents, don’t just happen. There are warning signs. There are red flags. When others keep shoving these flags in our face, we shouldn’t take them for granted and assume such signs may just vanish during marriage. Time will not diminish these threats. It will instead make them more prominent.
Red flags are there for us to observe to advise ourselves. The essence of dating or courtship is to take note some of these red flags which are an indication of something worse to come.
A potential spouse who wants to play God in your life.
It is great to have someone who cares genuinely about you. It’s awesome to have a fiancé/fiancée who shows their support at every given time. However, the red flag is when their bossy self wants you to render to them a vivid account of every detail of your life daily. The red flag is when they slam it in your face that you were literally a “nobody” until they met you.
A life partner should be a friend not a god of a boss. They should not bully you around as though it’s a privilege to have them. Indeed, you should run for your life when he/she wants you to organize a thanksgiving session for them each day!
A spouse-to-be who incessantly compares you with their ex.
Many people today are like Lot’s wife. They keep looking back. They can’t let go of a past relationship even though they are in a new one. At the least opportunity, they’d refer one to how their ex would have done something better. Their ex’s name keeps roaming in all their conversations.
You see, when a man/woman is still attached to their past, it is almost likely they will leave you for them when the opportunity rears its head. When they’re still immersed in their past, you may never be enough for them because they have an ex of a yardstick they’re always comparing you with!
A man/woman you can’t trust.
Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Two people can never walk together until they’ve agreed to trust each other. Otherwise speaking, where there’s no trust, there’s barely a fruitful relationship because each spouse always suspects the other.
Absence of trust is the foremost red flag one should always look out for. When there’s no foundation of trust, no relationship can be built. When we don’t trust people, we’ll spend the rest of our lives fretting over needless matters. Depression will be our neighbor. Anxiety will be our friend. You’ve no business imagining a future with someone you can’t afford to trust!
A relationship where morals and values have taken a vacation.
When there are no standards in a relationship, anything walks in. When there are no common values, you both fall for everything. Many marriages are hitting the rocks lately because both couple didn’t have morals and values which were strictly adhered to before marriage even came into the picture.
If you’re in a relationship and you both, for instance, think it’s just okay to have threesomes, nothing will change even when you marry. Such a marriage will be riddled with cheating episodes where none trusts the other. How far your marriage will go depends on the morals and values you both held dearly to when dating!
A spouse-to-be who will choose wedding over marriage.
It’s amazing how many today will make so much fuss about a wedding when they’re not even prepared for marriage. I have met young women who are bent on settling down with a man who can give them their dream wedding… not dream marriage. I have met others who are so crazy about weddings but don’t give a hoot about what happens thereafter.
Pay attention to what your yet-to-be bride or groom is paying attention to; wedding or marriage. Life tests our maturity in so many ways and one of such is knowing whether a wedding is a need or only a want. Marriage is serious business. Wedding is only a little, insignificant department of that business!
When they are more interested in your charm than character.
Many things may attract people to us― our fame, wealth, personality, beauty among others. All these amount to our charm. However, one thing more important than our charm is our character. What we have is our charm. Who we are is our character.
When a man/woman gives you hints that they’re with you just because of what you have, it is a clear red flag. What we have is temporary. Who we are is permanent. If they are so much into you for your wealth sake, what happens when you lose it? What happens when an unfortunate incident takes away your beauty? True love is built on character not charm.
A potential spouse full of indecision.
How does one even dream of settling down with an unstable partner? How are you going to cope with a partner who shuttles between several choices of partners because they are not really certain about you? How do you even stand the sight of someone who doesn’t know whether it’s you or their ex they want?
One of the causes of cheating in marriages is indecision and this red flag pops up even during dating. If you’re doing everything possible for a man/woman to stay in a relationship they’re not committed to, know that you’re one of their many options. Sooner or later, they may leave you!
When people show you who they are, believe them. A red flag is a red flag. Don’t try to entertain it lest it gets bloody later on!
The writer is a playwright and Chief Scribe of Scribe Communications (www.scribecommltd.com), a writing company based in Accra. His play TRIBELESS is on Saturday, June 16th, 2018 at National Theatre.
Light soup is a popular soup in Ghana and other West African countries. It is simple and easy to prepare,its usually served with fufu or rice.
- Fresh meat/chicken
- Garden eggs
- Chicken seasoning
- Cut the meat/chicken in desirable sizes and wash it well
- Put the chicken or meat in a saucepan
- Blend the onion, ginger and garlic
- Add the blended onion, ginger and garlic
- Add your seasoning, salt and little water and steam for 6 to 12minutes
- Boil the tomatoes, pepper and garden eggs(make sure it is soft)
- Blend the tomatoes, pepper and garden eggs when they are well cooked
- Add the mixture to the chicken/meat in the saucepan add more water if it is thick(its should be very light, not thick)
- Allow to the soup to cook for 20-30 minutes
- Serve with rice, banku or fufu.
Exhausted with the dating scene and wanna take a time out? Perhaps you’re not so sure you should, just in case you end up on the shelf and everyone gets taken in the meantime. If you’re in two minds, join Beauty and Tips as we take a look at 10 good reasons to take a break from dating.
Dating can be hard – but fun
However, it’s only fun when you go on one or two great dates before meeting someone cool who you enter into a relationship with. When you become a serial dater who’s venturing out on at least one disastrous date per month, on the other hand, dating is no longer fun. It’s exhausting, tedious and kinda weird.
It gets worse when you’re the one who’s rejected, too. The emotional roller coaster of the whole thing should be enough to put us off dating for life, but the question we always return to is this: If we quit dating, wouldn’t we be single forever? You don’t have to quit dating forever.
But if you’re tired of futile dates in the freezing cold, encounters with crazy guys and having to change your number because some creeps won’t get the picture that you don’t like them, you can always just take a break. Why should you? Here are 10 good reasons to take a break from dating.
Rediscover who you are
Dating can drawn you in to a sort-of parallel universe where you’re you – but also someone else. You’re meeting up with all different kinds of guys from different walks of life, and a lot of the time you have to adjust your own personality a little. You know how it is: You’re on a date with a cute guy who happens to be obsessed with Star Trek. You’ve never seen it, but to impress you tell him you love it, too. And when he asks for your favourite episode, you tell him you can’t choose just one. You love them all! When you free yourself from the dating scene, you also free yourself from discussing who other people are. You get a chance to rediscover your own passions and hobbies. You’ve got more time to dedicate yourself to do doing what you really love to do.
Because being single is fun
Hey, you’re single and guess what – lots of people are secretly jealous! Being single is better than dating losers. You get to do whatever you want, whenever you want. Have a blast!
You stop looking
They say that love comes when we’re not even looking for it. A lot of people will surely agree with this. If you’ve been spending the best part of the last year trying to force love out of a bunch of strangers online, it might be a good idea to take yourself out of the firing line and let nature and destiny take over. Give yourself up to the gods. You might experience a lovely surprise when you least expect it.
You can focus on making friends instead
Tired of meeting people for love and it all going wrong? Why not ease the pressure and widen your social circle instead? Meeting new people for friendship is a lot easier than the pressure cooker environment of the dating scene. You get to relax a bit more, take it easy, and don’t have to worry about why he isn’t texting back. It’s so much more fun! Join an app like Bumble and find new friends to hang out with.
You reaffirm your self image
It’s 1am. You went to bed an hour ago. You can’t sleep. You keep thinking about him and why he hasn’t texted since 8pm. You deliberately left your phone in another room so you wouldn’t check your phone in bed. After all, you need sleep. Screw that! You leap out of bed into the freezing cold, stub your toe on something and check your phone. He hasn’t texted and now you feel silly, cold and your toe is throbbing. Worse still, you ask yourself “what have I become?!” When we’re dating too much, we can lose sight of our self image. We check our phone every five minutes and literally can’t cope if our date hasn’t replied. It’s not cool, we hate ourselves for doing it, and it’s not how we normally behave. Take a break from dating and reaffirm your self image. You don’t need to be the one who is still awake at 1am waiting for a text. You’re better than that and deserve better than that.
You’re not ready to date
If you need a break from dating, it might mean that you’ve not been ready for a relationship this whole time. Take a breather and only return to the dating scene when you’re truly ready to meet a new man.
Use the time to analyse past mistakes
One of the reasons you’ve been bouncing from bad date to bad date could be that you haven’t given yourself enough time between each guy to reflect on what went wrong. It’s important that you analyse past relationships so that you can learn from mistakes, ensuring they don’t happen again. Take a look at your past and see if there are things you can improve on.
A break will save you some time
Dating can take a lot of your time, but when you are single you can use all this time for spending quality moments withy your family and friends, or on self development or taking a new and fun hobby, it is an excellent reason to take a break from dating, at least for some time.
You can reevaluate what you want from a guy
We can spend so much time shopping around online for dates that we forget what we even want in a guy. Taking some time out from the dating scene gives you an excellent opportunity to reevaluate what it is you want from a guy. Spend some time writing down qualities you want in a man so that when he does eventually come along, you know he’s the one for you.
Learn a new skill
As you know, dating can take up a lot of time. If you aren’t on dates, you’re texting new guys. If you aren’t texting them, you’re calling them. If you aren’t doing that, you’re browsing lots of profiles. Dating takes up so much time that we never have the time to do anything else. Take a break from dating and focus on learning a new skill. It’s so much more productive.
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Gases build up in the colon as the result of undigested food. A healthy person farts an average of 20 times a day.
Gas production can increase due to poor digestion of certain foods, food sensitivity or intolerance (e.g., celiac disease, lactose intolerance), bacterial overgrowth in the small intestine, or the presence of some forms of bacteria in the digestive system that produce more gas than others.
Why It’s Good To Fart
No, you won’t explode if you don’t release pent-up gas but here are some valid reasons that you’re better off letting it fly.
1. Relieves Bloating
We all know what abdominal bloating feels like; it’s quite uncomfortable, making you feel like an over-inflated tire. Bloating can be caused by illness but is much more likely from something you ate.
Legumes like beans and lentils are musical fruits, indeed. Grains like wheat, rye, and barley can also make your digestive system work overtime, trapping gas and making you feel bloated and overly full. There’s no other real remedy for bloating than release through a good fart.
Increased discomfort occurs when you can’t get the gas out—try the wind relieving yoga pose to help your intestines to push it out.
2. Indicates Digestive Health
Gut bacteria are essential for health. When they become imbalanced or there aren’t enough of the good kind, food isn’t broken down properly or efficiently. By the time waste gets to your colon, it’s not been as thoroughly processed as it should be.
Beneficial bacteria in your body (and there are 100 trillion of them) break down food, help to eliminate metabolic waste, monitor and destroy harmful bacteria, and perform a host of other necessary activities. Having an ample supply is crucial for overall health; there is growing evidence that imbalance of gut bacteria can even affect the brain, leading to anxiety and depression.
If you fart around the average amount, it’s an indication that the micro-organisms in your lower digestive tract are working properly.
3. Flatulence and Diet
Farting can give you an idea on whether or not your diet suits your body.
If you don’t fart much, it may mean your gut bacteria aren’t getting necessary nourishment. They feed on complex carbohydrates. Eat more legumes (beans, lentils), whole grains, cruciferous vegetables (brussels sprouts, cabbage, bok choy, broccoli, cauliflower, etc.), and onions. That should do the trick.
Women tend to begin to toot more at or around menopause due to hormone changes. Add probiotics to your diet for balance. Fermented foods are the best source of probiotics: kefir, sauerkraut, kombucha, miso, and yogurt are prime examples.
Dark chocolate (cocoa content 70% minimum), apple cider vinegar, and ginger are also great supporters of the digestive system and are “prebiotics”: food for the probiotics.
4. S/he Who Smelt it Dealt it
How your farts smell says a lot about what’s going on inside your body. The air that exits your rectum is comprised of several different gases, none of which have an especially horrendous aroma.
If you find that your farts start to stink on a regular basis, it could be a sign of a food sensitivity/allergy (e.g., lactose or gluten) or an infection in the digestive tract. Or something as simple as eating too much garlic or meat.
Make incremental adjustments to your diet and pay attention to how the smell of your farts change.
5. Inhaling Farts is Good for You
Sounds paradoxical but one of the gaseous compounds abundant in your fragrant posterior expulsions is hydrogen sulfide. The sulfur part is what causes the rotten egg smell.
Research has found that sulfide gas in small doses may prevent cell damage. This may have applications in the prevention and treatment of arthritis, heart disease, and stroke.
Ghana, the acclaimed gateway to Africa, is my beloved motherland. I am proud to be a native Ghanaian. “I am not Ghanaian because I was born in Ghana, but because Ghana was born in me” – drawing inspiration from a famous quote by Osagyefo Dr. Kwame Nkrumah, our pre-eminent founding father. For if I had the chance to be reincarnated after my death, I would still want to be a Ghanaian.
I recently read online that some 38 foreign nationals, including Americans, British, Spanish etc. have naturalised as Ghanaians. This evidences my profound assertion that Ghana is probably the best place to be in the world.
Paradoxically, many Ghanaian folks migrate to Western countries in dire need of wealth while Ghana remains the country of limitless opportunities. Yes, our nation may have its shortcomings yet it is arguably the best place to be on planet earth. Here are the 7 salient reasons to validate my remarkable pronouncement:
(1) Hospitability is our prime hallmark.
You have obviously heard that, “Ghanaians are hospitable.” Ghanaians are hospitable, at least towards foreigners. We are mostly friendly and welcoming to visitors or guests because that is a part of our cultural make-up. In fact, we are warm-hearted, neighbourly, accommodating and open-handed. Any average foreigner can attest to this attitude of ours.
(2) Ghanaians are rarely satirical.
The Ghanaian citizenry possess an atypical sense of satire in everyday life. Satire is in our blood and we sometimes play it carefully. We literally mock our wayward politicians on a daily basis, with the aim of demonising them and exposing their evil deeds.
On social media especially, we often resort to biting satire of our unjust, wicked and corrupt system. And virtually no guilty person or institution can escape our sociopolitical satire. For satire enlightens the masses in unusual ways.
(3) Ghana is the land of real peace.
Okay, Ghana is the most peaceful country in Africa and beyond. Ghanaians abhor mass bloodshed. Look! Religion may have separated us, ethnicity may have disconnected us, politics may have divided us, and wealth may have classified us; however, we still coexist with one another in peace and togetherness.
(4) We have a stable democracy.
Thank God Ghana has never experienced any civil war unlike most African countries. Though we have had several military interventions in the past after our independence; we now enjoy a stable democracy, where the people are sovereign under the rule of law in a free and open society with constitutionally guaranteed rights and freedoms.
(5) Economic opportunities abound in our economy.
Ghana may be the small West African country with insignificant presence in the world economy. Yet economic opportunities in various sectors of our resilient economy really abound. Why migrate to the Western world to seek greener pastures when you can make much money here like Sarkodie, Bola Ray, Despite, Nduom, and the like?
People may claim that the Ghanaian economy is in the doldrums due to acutely unfavourable economic conditions. But with priceless passion, efficiency, hard work, smartness and innovation; one can make a rare fortune in the course of time. Need I say more?
(6) Ghana is a modern secular society.
Should I say religious and cultural pluralism exist in Ghana? Well, Christianity, Islam, idolatry and the others are all guaranteed by Ghana’s 1992 Constitution. In Ghana, everyone can practise his faith without fear since Ghana is neither a Christian country nor an Islamic nation. We are a modern secular society or a pluralist state.
(7) We have a prestigious cultural heritage.
Ghana boasts of a variety of prestigious cultures. The Ashanti Kingdom in particular, has gained worldwide recognition for its lasting, dynamic and especial nature. Indeed, a chunk of the Ghanaian people are true bearers of high Ghanaian culture which is inseparable from our national spirit.
God bless mother Ghana…